We have all been in this painful position - you and your man have a great, new relationship. Things are cool at the beginning, but slowly he starts to withdraw. He does not call you or text you, he is distant and not around. Sooner or later, you get the inevitable breakup speech, and he is gone. But - what I want to know, is did you notice the behaviors you were exhibiting when he was withdrawing and you were trying to keep him from leaving? Did you know that most women actually do the same things you may have done? Read on

One of the things women do to keep a man from withdrawing is to try to be his friend. You try to be helpful, “guy-like” and supportive, all the while thinking that he will soon realize how great you are.

Or, you may try to make him jealous by telling him you are dating other people, even if you are not. You may also just go on a date with a guy not because you like him, but in order to the one you love to notice, be jealous and want you back.

Pretending that being in a casual relationship is fine is another tactic women take to try to bring him back. You continue to have sex with him, and welcome him when he does come by, and you never let him see you cry. You think that this will make him realize just how great you are!

Giving a man an ultimatum is another tactic women employ. You could also try to make him feel bad and try to force him to stay - thinking naturally that once he is in the relationship, he will realize how happy he is.

Or finally, you baby him, compliment him, serve him and do anything for him that you can, once again hoping that you will create a grateful and attractive response in him.

ALL women do these things at one time or another. It is so strange, too, because these things do not work! Ever see hordes of dead frogs on a road on a rainy night? Same concept - others go before us and die a miserable death, but we hop out on the same road into the same traffic thinking, well, it will work for me. ThenSQUASH!!!

So what will work for this situation. Well - I hate to tell you - there is no magic phrase, line or bullet. Nothing is going to magically bring him back. What does work, though, is LEARNING what will make a man feel that natural and lasting attraction that will keep him in your relationship.

In order to keep your relationship healthy, active and interested, you need to develop an understanding of what creates natural and lasting attraction. A barrier that women face, though, to understanding this is their own personal mindset.

But if you can learn to understand how your mindset affects how you interpret and respond to a man…you will soon get the kind of awareness that will help you interpret on an individual basis what will work for your situation and what will not.

Creating natural and lasting attraction will help boost your relationship to new levels - levels of security, comfort and amazing connections that will last for a lifetime. Do yourself a favor and LEARN what triggers natural attraction and what YOU can do today to maintain that.